Why Is It So Important For Young Women To Have Their Own Place?
This is an important discussion to have with your daughters
It is hard to let your boyfriend know that you cannot live with him. You love him and you see yourself with him forever, and although there are some great benefits to living together first, trying to live on your own is an option you shouldn't let slip away.
My niece, who is in her early twenties wanted to know if she should have her boyfriend come live with her, and before my husband could speak, I said: "Try living on your own first."
I then explained that when my husband and I met as youngsters in our late teens, early twenties, we immediately moved in together. So, I went from living with family, to living with my new family— my man. There was no “me” time intermission. I did not experience living my life on my own terms. This is not to say I could not think on my own or make my own decisions, while living with someone, but it would have been great to discover not having to defer to another person about mundane things like food, house colors, or who is paying what bill, etc.
Never experiencing who you are could possibly become someone’s life regret. I am totally happy with my decision, but for today’s generation, I think living on your will be better if even for a little while.
This is not to say I had no freedoms or that I did not like living with a man, but I would encourage young women to live on their own, even if just for six months or a year. Learn how it feels to come and go as you please. Learn your style of housekeeping and decorating. Learn the complete and utter joy of giving your own self permission for whatever.
Then, when you are a married woman, you will be able to know what your boundaries are. You will have established your own expectations. You will look back over your life and be glad you had some time of peace before you settled down and had a family.
In essence, this message can be for young men too. See how it is to live with yourself first. Granted, today's economy is forcing everyone to take on roommates, so I totally understand.
Choose yourself first.